Discipline is one the biggest issues in the vicious cycle of post traumatic slave syndrome, and I believe that there’s a limit to the physical discipline a child is given. The family structure for blacks anywhere has severely suffered due to slavery, and that’s not to point out the high divorce rates that this country along with others are experiencing now. Times will continue to change and is up to the community to step in to make that difference. There’s so many abandonment issues that can always link to post traumatic slave syndrome.

Acts of Faith: Daily Meditations for People of Color -Iyanla Vanzant is
a book I think is very helpful for people trying to get out of these post traumatic “slave syndrome” habits.

I’ll check out the book=)

beating ur kids = abuse and the perpetuation of the slave mentality?  word?

word…is it shocking? or?...what you think joalo

abuse = the perpetuation of the slave mentality depending on the situation, cause that happens across the board (but i wouldnt be surprised if at a much higher rate for blacks and browns)

but beating ur kids is totally fine.  they need to full spectrum of love, including instilling the fear of god.

My and my siblings were brought up in loving but strict environment (although we’ve always got what we wanted, so it’s difficult to explain). I know I was beat a lot :D - my mother says there was no way she could have handled me otherwise. On the other hand, it only happened once to my sister (long story short, it wasn’t so good idea and it never happened again). So children are different as day and night and that kind of “don’t hit your child” campaigns are too violent to be honest. Human society is very colourful, you can find anything among us - every kind of standardisation, all the attempts to see everyone from absolutely equal grounds, without taking all the details into account is simply sheer violence against human nature.

It’s wrong to beat your 13-year old child for 15 minutes for scoring C+ at an exam, but it’s not wrong to hit a 2-year old who needs to be told “don’t do it” quickly and understandably.

PS, And it’s absolutely unacceptable to instill the fear of god in children. Children must be taught to be good from inside, they mustn’t be good because they’re afraid of doing evil things, but simply because it’s wrong. My children will grow up as pagans!

lol…
PAGANS?...
Well, beating a 13 year seems almost foolish, because that’s an age that right from wrong is understood. A C+ sucks when you’re working everyday to provide more than the necessary for a teenager that is clearly not appreciative of the efforts being made.

A two year old needs a little slap in the bottom to understand that touching this equals to pain on they behind. Now, only reason that 2year will continue to touch something they are suppose to is because the parent is probably smiling at them after smacking their butts.

Anyway…NO PAGANS, but they will learn morals and ethical values.

What is wrong with being brought up in accordance with nature and fellow beings? Don’t get too stuck on mumbo-jumbo seen on cartoons. Unfortunately, because of some New Age neo-paganist lunatics I can’t use the word in its real meaning without Americans thinking I want to dress up my children as druids or sacrifice every third for better harvest…

someone needs to make up their mind. saying some nonsense like “Though we try, we can no longer fully blame white people for keeping us down while we are keeping ourselves down.“ while having another article about a white lady in not only black face but black body is crazy. how can someone say black people staying down is all on us while pointing out someone using a white model painted “black” instead of just usin a black lady? to make it worse it’s coming from the same person who thinks a title like beat black kids is ok or at least ok enough to be explained away. it’s a little sick to compare slavery and spanking a kid.

“We need to do our own thing and stop complaining as a people and reevaluate ourselves.“

that really sounds like some house nigga shit. i mean i hate to get into all that but honestly…come on now. one of the worst things that goes on in the black community is that group of people who sit and say things that basically discourage black people from speakin the truth. for some off reason it’s always a big deal when a black person talks about the things goin on in society. you can say we shouldn’t complain about this and that but has that really worked in all the time black people have been in this country? the whole keep quiet cause you might make someone mad type of nonsense has never done any good. what’s wrong with bein able to say this and that is goin on and it’s time things changed? how do you build the nerve to tell someone to not complain? i’m damn sure happy you weren’t in the middle of the civil rights leaders. i could see you sittin there tellin them somethin like “it’s not what the white people are doin….it’s all our faults.“ what about that article about the white lady holdin her purse because she sees a black man in a suit? should we pretend like that doesn’t really happen? how often do you see white ladies grabbin their purses when a white rocker walks by? that shit doesn’t happen because of some things blacks do..it’s because of how others want to see us. blacks don’t sit and choose to get talked about like animals on the news. we don’t ask police to shoot us in front of our homes or in churces. we’re not in the news rooms sayin “hey let’s not show the white people killin each other or that white guy who just cut his wife into a million pieces instead let’s show the black man jay walking and tell everybody he was runnin from the police.“ white people don’t deserve part of the blame??? where the hell have you been?

“Beating a child may stop a particular action but, look at the long-term effects. It causes hate, making the child act out in some other way usually making the child worse off. I still flinch when someone raises their hand and I’ve never been confident.“

that’s a personal problem that YOU have. i don’t think i know a single person who hasn’t been spanked as a child and none of them have any long term effects other than knowing how to act. you really want to blame a flinch on gettin spanked? what kind of reaction are you supposed to have when someone raises their hand towards you? you’ve never been confident because you were spanked??? you gotta be shittin me. of all the things that could cause that you claim it to be spanking? don’t try to put your personal opinions and short comings in as fact. no wonder why so many people are screwed up….silly shit like that gets passed around and stupid people take it to heart. count the people who don’t have those problems before you claim that nonsense.